it’s okay to do things that make your symptoms worse (as long as you’ll stay safe)
every once in a while you need to eat something yummy. or go on a walk. or a trip to the zoo. take a hot shower. cry your eyes out. dance. listen to music. draw for way to long. write. laugh. sit in a cafe with a friend. paint your nails. dye your hair. go on a run. pet a cat
sometimes you need to do things that are cathartic or make yourself feel alive. sometimes you need the reminder of why you’re fighting so hard to stay alive
this is your reminder that just because it makes your symptoms worse, it isn’t always the wrong thing to do. there can be value in these actions
If you think about it too, abled people do it all the time. Deciding to drink to excess at a party knowing they’ll have a hangover. Going to a theme park knowing walking all day is going to hurt their feet by the end. We have the right to make those same decisions.
“It’s so weird that my mood and behavior is so dependent on something as silly as the sun being out ha ha” I think to myself, somehow forgetting that the sun is the main source of warmth and energy that is necessary for all life on earth and that every ancestor all the way back to the first living cells has spent their lives under her radiant warmth. The thing that’s truly “so weird ha ha” is that I could take her for granted as a factor of a mere factor of the environment, as if she isn’t the life giver whose behavior shapes the biological processes of every living thing
This poll is a celebration of fandom history; we’re aware that there are certain issues with many of the listed pairings and sources, but they are a part of that history. Please do not take this as an endorsement, and refrain from harassment.
(VOTE WANGXIAN)
This whole poll is giving me lots of thoughts on fandom and what can legitimately be said to be influential on fandom as a whole, and what is regional/generational/cultural etc. For example, there are a plenty of sasanaru fans talking about how important it was in the early 00s for online queers and I’m just like “???” because this queer was def. terminally online in that time and in my late teens/early twenties during this period, and even as someone super into anime and manga, I never watched/read naruto, and was only tangentially aware of it. Even my group of younger friends (4-5 years younger, my little bros best friends, almost exclusively queer and majority Japanese) who were more into it weren’t *big* fans. We were way more invested in Death Note, Fruits Basket, InuYasha, etc. Of course, this poll is at least in part about *lasting* impact, since it’s drawing from the most popular ships on AO3. And some older ships have the benefit of having a huge number of fics created in the pre-ao3 days still being moved over, but they also need to have people still writing in them and keeping them relevant. (In a way, Spirk and MSR have an edge over other older fandoms, in that both ST and TXF continue to have reboots, spinoffs, and new episodes, but that’s a topic for another post).
A couple of years ago, Hannigram would’ve handily beaten Sasanaru in their poll, because our fandom was fucking huge and rabid and were hoping that by showing our passion and numbers, we might get a renewal (ot, but I heard that Hannigram fans were assholes in the comments on that poll, and though I didn’t see it, sorry to hear it guys :/ we got plenty of harassment in the past, but that doesn’t make it okay to pay it forward on you). Same thing with Drarry or Viktor/Yuuri in their respective heydays. So Sasanaru at least stood the test of time–either retaining enough of the diehard fans, or gaining enough new to keep it relevant–but does it make it the most influential? When there are so many ppl of the same generation who’ve never consumed it? Who would outright avoid it? Same questions about Wangxian. They are My Ship and I will go down with them, lmao, but I think it’s pretty obvious from all the “who dey” comments on their various polls, there’s a huge part of fandom completely unfamiliar with MDZS and CQL. (btw, go watch on Viki or borrow the books from your library or find on amazon and change your life with our amazing fandom content for real, I will never stop talking about how good the story is, and how superlative the fic written for it is) Of course, even still their impact on AO3 is still felt, through the tag limit and not being accessible in an entire country. But still. For the people who’ve never seen it, and relate more to one of the other fandoms, why do they care? If they aren’t in China, they aren’t feeling the impact of the loss of AO3, and most of them probably aren’t actually hitting the AO3 tag limit.
These are just thoughts rolling around in my head, when I see people saying things like “remember your roots.” I need to order my thoughts a bit more and make a longer post. But I guess what it boils down is to “my roots are not necessarily your roots.” Sure, here in the US, we see ourselves as a giant mycelium network, with Star Trek forming the roots, and then big branching off-shoots from there, with The X-Files being one of the major ones. But it’s not global. Fans in other places around the world might have taken clippings and grafted aspects of our fandom onto theirs, added the /, use the word ‘ship,’ but that was added on to what already existed–it didn’t uproot what was already there.
Liu’s figurative paintings — inspired by shunga, Japanese erotic art popularized in the 17th century — are ruminations on her upbringing in a family where sex and nudity were taboo. When she first began to show these works, a dealer suggested she recut the canvases to eliminate the exaggerated genitals (the work in this article is a relatively tame example). “I can’t do that,” she said. “They were like, ‘Well, do you want to sell? Do you want to create this career?’ I found that so outrageous. [I was] being censored once again. As a child I was not allowed to ask questions but now I can’t even show …” she trails off. “I know it’s aggressive, maybe it’s not your taste, but that’s not the point of the piece.”
“Hanging on the wall of Liu’s studio are three large paintings of nudes. In one, two females crouch head-to-head as if sharing a kiss — or a secret. Get close enough to the canvas and you can see a window ornamented with a flower box; you realize that there is another painting underneath: The original works are paintings of old family photographs.”
We need peace and safety, Israeli and Palestinians together in the region. What we don’t need is westerners cheering on their “side” while they sit in safety and our blood soaks the ground.
i went to an event at my synagogue on tuesday where we were able to sit together as a congregation, whoever was able to make it, and just decompress and talk about our emotions in a safe space. one of my rabbis talked about how she went to a grief support group for parents that had lost their children to terror and violence, primarily made up of israelis and palestinians. sitting together and talking about their pain and loss. after the massacre happened this saturday, palestinian members reached out to check on other members and offered up prayers for them. i told a friend that and they laughed and rolled their eyes, then told me “what so you want people to all just sit in a big circle and sing kumbaya????” this really is all one big fucking joke to them. like they really don’t see any of us as people, just pawns in their game of “activist” dnd.
As Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg exhorts, in her recent piece I overwhelmingly agree with:
“We can refuse to root for the safety and lives and rights of human beings like they are sports teams. In which there are winners and losers. In which safety is a finite resource that must be hoarded.”
I always have a bit of a snarl whenever someone retorts that kumbaya thing because like.
A: would that be so bad? Would it be so terrible if a meeting of minds and opening of hearts could happen and we could have a peaceful resolution rather than an endless cycle of killing and death and despair? Would it be so awful if we could recognize the humanity in each other and learn how to choose to move forward into the future together united?
B: Kumbayah is a BLACK (Christian) phrase with its origins being sung by people pleading to God for help during troubled times- when they were starving, or sick, dying in war or due to oppression, in need of aid. The fact that so many people think it’s an absurd thing to do to “sit in a circle and sing kumbayah” is rooted in antiblackness. Yes yes I know antiblackness 🤝 antisemetism.
C: idk why it’s so offensive to people to think that the civilians mourning those lost in a government and military conflict might find common ground while remembering their dead, but like… that’s normal. And I find this type of thinking- blaming the civilians for what their government is doing- is what has led us to so many various war crimes and atrocities over the years. These innocent people have nothing to do with it. They just want to live in peace.
The nature of Tumblr not showing follower counts is that every mid-sized blog will have a small subsection of people absolutely convinced they’re following/mutuals with a celebrity.
I routinely forget that periods exist, and its only been like two years since I stopped having them.
The whole concept of them and all the planning and the contingencies involved are just, swoosh, out of my mind. im only reminded that periods are a thing every couple of months or so when one friend or another is in pain and brings the subject up. a friend asked me about how my periods were recently and i was shocked not that she believed i still had them, but that i had ever been a person who’d had them at all.
Multiple friends of mine have gotten hysterectomies this past year, some after long waiting periods, and its got me remembering that my high school debate coach told me getting one was the single best decision of her life. Ive wondered to myself a few times what all theadvantages of it are, beyond the obvious prevention of pregnancy piece, and it honestly took me months of thinkkng to remember that oh, oh yeah, right, some people have periods and some periods really hurt and for some people that is probably a factor.
periods are such a non issue for me i forget about what a massive toll they can take on many other peoples lives. and im only a month post op from top surgery, but i can tell its gonna be the same thing w having tits. im gonna forget how much pain and hassle and work it all was.
and I share this because it shows just how mutable human beings are, and how changeable privilege is.
if i can forget about the existence of a bothersome and dysphoric experience i had every month for decades within a matter of two years – so much so that i forget other people still have to deal with periods – then someone who grew up poor but now is rich cant ever be trusted to remember what poverty is like. an adult cant be trusted to remember the fear and powerlessness of being a kid. and a trans man can very much be oblivious to sexism and to the lived experience of being a woman, no matter his prior experience, because that is what privilege does to you once youve got it. it clouds over all the worries you no longer have to think about, separating your perspective from that of all the people that do still have to.
and idk, i think thats important for people to remember. no matter what youve lived in the past, if you get a little money, a little privilege, a little power, it changes you, and it makes you stop worrying about many things, and it makes you oblivious.
Jewish dyke of colour. 30. She | her. Obscure NPC enjoyer.
